Being with your special man or woman for a long time does not need to get boring. One just has to exercise a little imagination and creativity to bring back novelty in a relationship. Exploration with your partner of the sexual or experiential kind may it be using sex toys together can do wonders to relight the flames of a romantic relationship. These are the lessons I learned after reflecting on the state of my relationship with my wife of ten years.

The frightening part of it was I did not realize that my romantic relationship with my wife was stuck in a rut until recently. I chanced upon a TV show featuring couples who have been together a long time and they were being interviewed and asked what was the secret of the strength and stability of their relationships. Among the factors the couples enumerated were sensitivity, communication, trust, commitment, love and adventurousness or exploration with your partner.

The topic on TV got me to thinking about the State of my own relationship with my wife. I realized that I still loved her in the same way as I did the first time I met her. I wondered then if she felt the same way about me? I then got to thinking what was I doing to help her stay in love with me? My answer frightened me…nothing.
What could I do? I realized that I had exerted little effort, imagination and creativity to injecting novelty in our romantic life together, not to mention our sex life. The sense of adventure we had when we had both started off was gone. Right there and then, I decided to do something about it.

I decided to start with the basics. I paid more attention to my personal hygiene making sure I smelled and looked nice for her and would surprise her with some flowers when I came home from work.

A little novelty was in order too. Luckily I had some vacation leave due from work so I took it and took my wife (leaving our kids with their grandparents) for a trip—just the two of us--- to the Caribbean. I knew she loved the beach and the ocean and it turned out to be the right choice. The smile on her face that first night of our vacation was something I had not seen in her face for a long time. It was that naughty smile that said yes, I was going to get lucky that night.

That was the start of my turning things around for our relationship. Now I get lucky more often than I used to in ways that we had never done it before it definitely added some spice into our relationship. But the greatest reward I get is that secret smile she now gives me more often when I just happen to look at her. Romance for couples is very important, every once in a while, do try to keep things heated.